I am noticing the subtle shifts that are happening in my being, Two big shifts I am aware of is how I do not seem to get as frustrated with myself and my seeming inability to understand some things in life, and I do not take what is happening around me as something being directed at me.
I used to get very frustrated and if I did not walk away from, or let go of whatever the issue was that was frustrating me, the frustration would turn into anger at myself and often at others who happened to be in my space. Or I would feel hurt because I related to what was happening in my personal space as though what someone else was doing or saying was about me or being directed at me. My self talk would be negative and self deprecating, like: no one cares about me or about how I feel, I have to do everything , how could I be so dumb, so slow to understand, so flawed, and so inadequate, I really do not matter, I am not enough and no matter what I do it never seems to be right or enough.
For a few months now I have been looking at my basic beliefs about myself and writing about the events that happened in my life that created these closely held beliefs. As I took each event, one by one, and replayed it in my mind, I slowly came to an understanding about how and why I perceived life to be the way I thought it was and why my self worth had been compromised.
I am noticing the subtle shifts that are happening in my being, Two big shifts I am aware of is how I do not seem to get as frustrated with myself and my seeming inability to understand some things in life, and I do not take what is happening around me as something being directed at me.
For a few months now I have been looking at my basic beliefs about myself and writing about the events that happened in my life that created these closely held beliefs. As I took each event, one by one, and replayed it in my mind, I slowly came to an understanding about how and why I perceived life to be the way I thought it was and why my self worth had been compromised.
Until then, I don't think I realized the tremendous impact my internal dialogue and my basic beliefs about myself were having on my life. When things in life did not work for me, I usually believed it was because of something outside of me.
About three or so months ago, I began to notice the shift in my thought processes and how I was responding differently to stimuli outside of myself. I am rewriting my life script and changing my internal dialogue. When someone says or does something and my first thought is, "he/she doesn't care about me", instead of reacting, I now take a deep breath and question that thought. Is this true, is it really about me? So far, those negative thoughts of self doubt have not been accurate, they are only perceptions I have made real in my mind. Instead of feeling hurt because I think nobody cares, I realize others actions are about them and not about me. I don't buy into it like I used to. Instead I wrap my arms around myself and remind myself that I am loved and cared for.
This is self-love, this is self-worth, this is peace.
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About three or so months ago, I began to notice the shift in my thought processes and how I was responding differently to stimuli outside of myself. I am rewriting my life script and changing my internal dialogue. When someone says or does something and my first thought is, "he/she doesn't care about me", instead of reacting, I now take a deep breath and question that thought. Is this true, is it really about me? So far, those negative thoughts of self doubt have not been accurate, they are only perceptions I have made real in my mind. Instead of feeling hurt because I think nobody cares, I realize others actions are about them and not about me. I don't buy into it like I used to. Instead I wrap my arms around myself and remind myself that I am loved and cared for.
This is self-love, this is self-worth, this is peace.
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